It’s a long weekend here in BC, which means that Veronica and I finally got together for a lovely hike with another close friend. Driving back from our hike we were in a car accident- thankfully we all walked away, sore and bruised, but okay in the scheme of things. It really made us think about life and how everything happens for a reason… Life is a precious thing, and no one gets out alive; embrace your happiness, love those around you, and focus on the positive and beautiful things that surround you. My outlook on life has changed dramatically, so this Motivation Monday is a bit of a reflection of that. We hope you all have an amazing week on all levels; emotionally, physically, spiritually… love it all 🙂
So, for the last week or so I’ve been throwing myself a little pity-party. Actually, I think it’s been going on longer than that, I’ve just finally clued in to what I’ve been doing to myself.
Starting off 2014 I was stoked. I had seriously slacked during November and December, using the typical excuses; Christmas is just around the corner, busy with work, busy with family and shopping and cleaning and planning, blah blah blah. Excuses stopping me from reaching ANY of my goals.
Maybe I’ve set myself up with too many goals, maybe I’m just being lazy and waiting for life to happen. Whatever it is, I’m sick of it. I’m done feeling sorry for myself because I know it’s counter productive. I know this mindset will get me nowhere in life, so it’s time to reassess and get back on the motivation train!
I’ve been ready to take on my goals since January 1st, yet I don’t feel like I’ve come very far since then. Sure, I know, we’re only a month into the New Year, but this time last year I was determined to be the best I could be; getting up early to run a couple times a week, keeping up with my 3-4 hits a week, eating right, and having a healthy relationship with my life. This year has been trending along the lines of sitting on my ass and waiting for my determined self to come back. I’ve been making excuses for everything. It’s either I don’t have time, I just want to sit down for a couple minutes, or whatever else comes to mind.
I’m DONE with excuses.
Which is why I’m writing this post. I had a little chat with myself yesterday. I’m frustrated with my (lack of) actions lately. This isn’t who I am; I don’t sit around and wait for things to happen and I’m definitely not comfortable with mediocre. I am better than this person.
By the way; I’ve written about 3 or 4 of these posts but never published any of them because I couldn’t find the courage to admit my lack of motivation to you guys. I’ve been telling myself I’m ready to change for about 3 months now (basically since I fell off the wagon way back in November); well damnit, I’m READY!
So here’s my slap in the face. Get off your ass Nicole and do something great. Be the BEST you can be and do it NOW.
I came up with a little mantra to help me push past these excuses:
“I do not make excuses, I make progress
I am not weak, I am human and it is okay to feel less than 100%, accept it and move on
I don’t need to do everything myself, it’s OK to ask for help
I can and will do everything I set my mind to.”
So here goes nothing. I’m taking my life back, one step at a time. The first step is going to be cleaning and organizing my house (which has fallen to shambles because of my pity-party). I know it’s okay to let myself feel bad sometimes, but those feelings need to be accepted and moved away from, they are counter productive and will in turn eat your soul.
Happy thoughts, good music and sunshine.
Well I’m doing it. I’m taking a week long hiatus from my personal Facebook page. What spurred this decision, you ask? Well it was really a culmination of a few things.
I read an article from MindBodyGreen a few days back about someone else’s Facebook detox. She wrote about how in the day of smart phones and Facebook, we often spend more time with our faces glued to our screens than the people right there in front of us. I’ve been guilty of this myself, and honestly I’m ashamed of it. Rather then engaging face to face with friends or family right beside me, I mindlessly scroll through my Facebook feed to see what’s new.
And herein lies the double edged sword of social media.
Ever since my year abroad in Australia for school, I’ve loved Facebook for it’s ability to connect me to my friends around the world. It’s the ultimate way to keep in touch, to share their life events when we can’t physically be there, and on some level to feel involved in peoples lives when we can’t be in real time.
For every positive however, there seems to be a glaring negative.
The last few weeks I’ve found myself embroiled in bitter Facebook debates with others on a variety of topics. I’ve seen RIP pages spring up for individuals that have just passed, which people join just to taunt, slander, and otherwise desecrate the name and memory of people. Twenty years ago this wouldn’t even be possible. We would read or hear about the person’s death on the news or from another person in conversation, and any mindless or insensitive comments we may have would be lost upon the room we were in and the few people we spoke to. Today these comments obliterate the internet.
With my interest in fitness, nutrition and overall healthy living I’ve also increasingly seen fitness pages where people are slammed for their successes, called bullies, called too muscular, too thin, and been subjected to a parade of other backhanded comments.
I find sometimes I can ignore these issues, and other times I get so angry that I can’t help but write a response, defending these people. For the most part it probably falls on deaf ears.
With the advent of social media and it’s unstoppable growth, there has been a steadily increasing number of those using it as a means to spew hate and negativity. It’s just too easy; on the internet you can be nameless and faceless and thus forgoe any shame you might otherwise would feel if you had to say these things to a person’s face (and just how many people would have the guts to repeat their comments to the target’s face, or their families?). There is no accountability, no repercussions. Opinions and comments are running rampant.
On one hand this freedom is good and necessary; if not for it I wouldn’t be able to write this blog post. We should all be able to share our thoughts with others. However, the people who don’t think before they do so, or purposely say awful things to get a rise out of others, are the people that are getting me down. This negativity breeds more negativity and it seems to be getting worse.
With the way Facebook works and the inevitability that others actions will somehow pop up in your newsfeed, sometimes you can’t help but notice the ridiculousness that keeps occurring…the callousness, ignorance, and flippant attitudes of those commenting on various topics and events. Does no one remember the old addage of, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”?
So starting tomorrow I will only log into our Facebook page for this blog, but I refuse to check in with my own page and the newsfeed. I feel the need to wash myself of all the negativity that I’ve soaked in by being active on Facebook. I hope to reconnect with those in front of me and around me. And if anything truly important happens, I hope that my friends care enough to contact me through traditional means to include me in it. Otherwise the cat memes, Farmville requests, and updates about doing laundry can wait a week. If I ever decide to return.